Tuesday, 23 December 2008

  • Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl- What Do You Wish For?

    Guest post submitted by TashaDW_18

    Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl- What Do You Wish For? I know many women who have all boys or all girls and are completely satisfied with their family situation. 

    When I got pregnant with my son, I wanted a boy.  I had always wanted a boy first.  I say that I made my second a girl by sheer will.  I wanted a girl and from the moment I conceived I called her a girl.  I bought her clothes and I had convinced myself that she was a GIRL.  And she was, thank goodness. 

    While I know that if she had been a boy I would have loved that baby just as much as I love my daughter now, there would have been a part of me that was sad for a while (only during the rest of the pregnancy - I know that by the time of the birth I would have been prepared for a second bundle of testosterone!).  

    Honestly, I probably would have cried at the sonogram if they'd told me it was a boy - just because that was how sure I was that I was having a girl.  And there would be no question of a third child - I would most definitely be trying again for a girl!  And if I hadn't gotten a girl with the third?  I would probably want to try again or want to adopt a girl!  I think I'm just a mom who needs a daughter. 

    While I know we all love our children regardless of their genders, I have to ask:  are you satisfied with your family's make-up?  Do you ever wish for different genders?

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Comments (56)

  • rough_souls@xanga

    i don't have kids, but i really hope i have a boy first... i feel like having a boy will ensure that my girl isn't too, well.. girly/prissy/stuck up/etc. and, i don't know, i kind of have a thing with family names/honor/idk that somehow mixes in with having a boy first
  • seriously_meredith@xanga

    I'm happy having a girl because she is my little sweetie. Next time I would be happy with either because if its a boy, then our family would be complete with one of each...if its a girl, then I won't have to buy anything for her since I have all of little one's stuff to hand down!
  • my_trumpet_pwns_all@xanga

    When I have kids, I want four.  I don't care about how many of each, but I want at least one boy.  Three girls, one boy.  that's fine.  But, I know I won't have five, just to get that boy, because with my luck, I would just get a 5th girl.  But, if I get 4 boys, that okay with me.  Although I'd really want a little girl...  I think I'd have to even adopt.  I don't know though.. that's still to far away for me to seriously consider.  
  • gwacemom

    I had a dear friend whose husband really wanted a boy. Four tries and four girls. He finally got his boys with numbers five and six.


    As for me, we have four boys and four girls. A perfect blend if you ask me.

  • Mom2Be

    To be quite honest, I have to say I'm hoping for a boy. Just something about my daughters (some day!) having big brother to watch over them at play. Of course, I was an oldest daughter and always wished for an older brother, so that probably has something to do with it.  But then I see the cute, cute little dresses and girly outfits and I figure that alone would make up for having a girl before a boy. But we'll see! Any day now!
  • icapillas@xanga

    I don't care if it's a boy or a girl. As long as it is a gift from Above, I treasure it. I have twin daughters and they are my most precious gems.
  • LilMissBrwnEyes@xanga

    I will be happy and totally in love either way, but I'm "secretly" hoping for a girl. I wanted a boy at first - and then when I was a couple week pregnant, I started to want a girl. My husband's family claims they only make boys, so I'd like to shake it up a bit with a girl. I love the idea of dresses and cute shoes and hair bows, and just... all things little girl. I definitely want at least one boy and one girl by the time we're done having kids. :) We will find out the gender on January 26, so I don't have too long to wait til I find out!!
  • RoAngie467

    I had a boy first. I want a girl second, and then I'll have the perfect little family.
  • emodoodle@xanga

    At first, I wanted a girl because I had the most beautiful name picked out for her and dresses for little girls are so cute. But then I thought about how she might be as she gets older and I don't think it would be good. Lucky for me, It's a boy and I'm so happy about that. I want about 3 or 4 children, maybe 5. And I would want more boys' than girls'.
  • ELIZerson@xanga

    If I ever get married...

    I would like to have a bunch of little boys.  The idea of raising a bunch of little gentlemen has always appealed to me.  Bonus: You don't have to deal with all the PMSing business.

    Now that I've said this... watch, I'll get 5 girls. Yikes.
  • pillowpixies@xanga

    I have yet to have children, but I don't really care about the gender. I mean... I may want a certain gender when I'm actually pregnant, but I don't figure so. I think both boys and girls have their perks. I'd love to have at least one of both, though; to experience both sides. (:
  • freedomcome@xanga

    i would love both eventually but i want a boy first.
  • xjessiferx@xanga

    I just found out I was pregnant and I keep changing my mind haha. I guess I'm leaning more towards wanting a boy right now though.
  • queencleopatra702@xanga

    I always knew i was going to have a boy first, i had this dream when i was 19 and i was sitting on a sea shore in the middle of the night with my unborn son and i talked to him about different parts of life that us humans go through and the right way to be through each part. i dont know...when i woke up i just knew that i had connected on some surreal level with my future son. (sounds crazy, i know, but thats how i felt)
    at 26 i discovered i was pregnant and people were like "what do u think its going to be" without a doubt i said it is my son, he has finally come back to me. i am sure that i will have another boy before i have a girl but i dont really care what the sex is. i have names picked either sex.
    only thing i consider now is when i want to go thru another pregnancy.
  • oh_mother_may_I@xanga

    I have two boys and they are a handful.
  • SocialistCokehead@xanga

    I want a boy.
    They're a bit more simple than girls.

  • TashaDW_18@xanga

    @rough_souls@xanga - Don't be too sure.  Like I said, my daughter has a big brother - but she is ALL girl - at 20 months she's already a little chatterbox and so prissy and dramatic!
  • TashaDW_18@xanga

    @EuphoriaUnplugged@xanga - Haha!  Which is exactly the reason that my husband wants another boy - he says our daughter is way too dramatic.  Which is true!
  • xcntrychicka@xanga

    I want a boy and a girl ideally, but I'll be happy with whatever children God grants me. I'd love to have a boy, because we have a name picked out to honor his father and grandfathers. And girls, well, they are just fun! 
  • getreal64@xanga

    I think that generalizing children by gender is really unfortunate.  You can have all of one gender and have many different personalities and characteristics thrown in there.  Not every little boy is a "big bundle of testosterone" and not every little girl wants to wear dresses and have her hair and nails done. 


    I didn't have my children to fulfill my desire to play dolly dress up or for my husband to have a "little buddy" to play catch with. 


    Crying over a boy's sonogram picture is just sad.  (as it would be to cry over a girl's sonogram picture)


    Geez, people, "trying" for a particular gender is just twisted somehow.
  • IamKelleyK@xanga

    I love my girl.  I "knew" she was going to be a girl.  For the next one, I'd be OK with either - but then again, if it's a girl I'll already have everything for her.  :)
  • RoseNoireDeLaNuit@xanga

    This is one of the reasons I have decided not to have children.  No, not because I can't decide which sex I'd like or I'd pick one sex over the other, and the other just wouldn't do.  No, no it's nothing like that.  The reason I can't have children is because I don't care what sex they are.  Confused?  Children are children.  They have different body parts, but they're the same.  Sure a boy will grow up to have the potential to have stronger muscle, he'll also grow facial and have an awkward voice stage at 13, and sure the girl goes through her changes which consists of pulling out an awkward book and reading to her about tampons.  But the thing is, they're no different.  We, as society, deem us to have two very different bodies, different personalities, different interests, etc.  But we aren't.  I am a sociology major and an androgyny (I choose to live my life between both genders, I can look male, female, or even between just give me five minutes).  I'd do really badly as a parent.  The doctor would look up from the bed, and say "It's a girl!"  Expecting this huge smile on my face, knowing the child is the same sex as me or some garbage, and I could dress her up in pretty dresses and play dolls with her and wait for her to get married some day to some nice man.  But that's not how it is....and how cruel to convince a child to be that.  Regardless of the sex of the child, my child would be allowed to be either gender.  GI Joes or Barbies, doesn't matter to me. The child will become whatever the parents influences it to and whatever their peers influence them to be.  Society may not want me to raise it as an "it" child, but in my opinion, why does the sex matter?  I'd love them no matter their PERSONALITY.
  • ThePinkMoonShop@xanga

    I definitely wanted a girl. Like most women who dream about having daughters, I had her name picked out and everything before I even conceived. I think the main issue for me was not knowing what I would name a boy since my husband isnt all that crazy about the idea of naming a son after him. I am 7months pregnant and its a girl so I got my wish, but next time I wouldnt mind having a boy since I got my way the first go round.

  • CarmineKiss@xanga

    A boy and a girl... doesn't matter who's older though. However, I'm not going to "be upset" or "cry over it" if I don't have a boy and a girl. Sure, I have the preference of only 2 children, 1 is a lonely number, and 3 just seems like one too many for me... but as long as I've got two healthy kids, I could care less what gender they were.
  • Shopgirl0393@xanga

    don't have any kids..yet!  i anxiously await the day when i do, however, and hope to have at least one of each, in any order.  preferably have one, then have fraternal twins.  if i could plan it out, that is! ;)  no matter what, or even if i end up adopting, i will love them all more than life

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