One of my good friends, H, dislikes kids with a deep passion. I don't know why but she always thought kids were little rug rats. Maybe it's because she didn't grow up in a very loving and affectionate family or maybe because she genuinely does not like children. Who knows?
Anyway, it's just an interesting thing because anytime a child goes near her, she practically freaks out. If he/she stares at her, H will shoot back a dirty look or will complain. Don't get me wrong... she would
never physically hurt a child, but she swears on her life that she will never have kids or even watch out for her brother's kids when he and his future wife decide to have kids.
Do you know anyone who dislikes children? Did you always want kids or did you go through a phase (when you were younger) when you didn't want any?
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It's so hard to imagine feeling this way. I certainly have friends who are 100% sure they do not want to be parents - however these same friends (6 i can think of at the moment) enjoy the children of their friends & family members. I probably couldn't be friends with someone who truly hated or even strongly disliked children.....because we would be such incompatible people.
It's just a preference. Me, I like kids. And when they aren't spoiled rotten, I love being around them. I intend to have kids, etcetc. I just don't like it when kids absolutely misbehave and their parents don't do anything about it. >_< That's not the kids fault, though. (Not 100%, anyway.)
I've known a few people that didn't care much for children and swear they will never have them. *shrug* It's not for everybody.
I've waffled on it myself. When I was younger, I thought I would have two. Then I changed my mind to wanting none. Now I'm good with one. I think a lot of it just has to do with where a person is in his or her life and kudos to the people that aren't ready to be parents and realize that.
lol H sounds like my coworker that i shall name, H2 as well.. cuz she hates children with a passion. she wouldn't hurt one, but she thinks they're rugrats and spoiled lil versions of their parents and shouldn't be allowed in public until they're 18. rofllll is your H the same as my H2? haha it'd be funny if it was.
i just shrug them off.. everyone has a right to what they like and don't like and forcing them to like it isn't going to make them a better person. children and marriage isn't for everyone.
a psychologist can look at this child-phobia as something else though and name something about themselves instead (fear of something is not understanding it) type deal.
That would be very frustrating for me. Whether or not someone decides they want to have kids (or not), doesn't mean they have the right to be rude about/towards kids. I have ALWAYS known that I would be a mother.
To be honest, I dislike alot of children. The only reason why is because alot of the ones I come within proximity with are spoiled brats who scream at the top of their lungs, while their parents sit by doing nothing. In that case, I dislike the parents as well. Don't get me wrong, there are kids out there who I like, and they're the ones who sit still, have proper manners and not act stupid. Is it too much to ask of a child? Some of you think so. But I've met parents who are far worse and far more spoiled than their kids.
A lot of kids, I can't stand.
Ones I've been around are obnoxious brats with no respect for anything. They're loud and annoying.
What can you do? Don't invite them. Or warn them ahead of time your children will be there, and they won't be leaving to make them feel comfortable.
Everybody has their reasons for not liking kids. Some are legitimate, and some are just insane. But one thing I hate are parents who don't control their children. Not the child's fault, but there's a lot of parents out there that need to wake up and start taking control of their kids.
I don't mind them. Kids are alright as long as they're behaving and not screaming or crying about something. Just like anyone else, the ones who throw tantrums are the ones I'll stear clear of.
I think I dislike babies the most. I don't like hearing the "baby talk" from people, as it is extremely annoying... That's when I walk away.
Back on topic: No, I have never wanted kids, and I still don't.
I remember one time, my daughter was a little slow getting off the esculator at a supermarket. She wasn't being naughty, she was just slow.
Anyway a woman behind her went off at her because of it.
I remember telling my daughter who was close to tears in ear shot of the lady...
"Don't worry honey, you will grow up and be an adult one day, but that lady may just always just be mean."
Some people forget that there own behavior is worse and often more immature than the child that they hate and fear.
Sometimes they need a gentle truthful reminder of this. For the sake of the children.
Both my brothers don't want children. I like some kids (mainly family) ...most I don't like...of course I love my daughter...
Some kids I can stand, most i can't because the people I know don't discipline and thus their kids are horrible. I won't freak out if one is near me but if a child does start disrespecting me or others badly, I will get angry and not want to be around them.
I get nervous around other's people's babies/children. I dunno why. I'm sure once I become a mother that's going to change, but for now, it still stands.
@x_shadow_kitsune_x@xanga - I was never baby-talked to, and I will yell at anyone who baby talks to mine.
when i was younger, i never wanted kids...ever...then i got pregnant when i was 19...and couldn't imagine my life any other way...which is good since i have 7:) One of my best friends, D, hates kids, never wants to have any, but she is still young (she is almost 22)...she doesn't mind my kids (but they are *older* for the most part....but she also doesn't have to be around my kids much since they are older have things of their own to do...
My sister swears that she will never have children, but she never says mean things about them. There's nothing you can do.
If someone doesn't like kids, that's their choice. However, if that somebody were making rotten comments around me and my daughter, I probably wouldn't be friends with them. That's disrespectful.
There was definitely a time when I didn't want kids. My husband and I waited, and now I'm 29 and a mother. I wouldn't have changed a thing. I love my family and I love my life now. It just took a bit of time for me to warm up to the idea of having kids. But I would never be hurtful or disrespectful to somebody else or their children.
I'm 18 just for the record.
Do NOT want children and do not like them. My family is very loving and all of that, not particularly large but they all coo and whatnot over babies and small children. Not me. A few of my friends feel this way as well.
Of course I would never hurt a child and I feel that those who do are absolutely disgusting. I personally just don't like them. I don't freak out if a kid is looking at me...that's a little extreme. I'm nice enough to them you know, i would just prefer they not speak to me/be around me and i despise being in social situations when a child is there and i'm expected to jump for joy because of their sheer existence. I see little kids all the time and sometimes they are absolutely adorable but most of the time my thoughts are along the lines of "yeah okay whatever." There are children in my life that I love of course, I love my niece and nephew more than anything, but in general just no.
I feel that most people who feel this way wind up changing their tune as the biological clock starts ticking/they have their own child. Hopefully those who this doens't happen to don't wind up having a child however, every child deserves someone who cares about them.
One of my good friends doesn't like little kids and actually told me she "prefers" not to be around them and that they annoy her. It sort of tainted our friendship until she found out the reason why I was becoming distant was because I got offended by what she said. I'm a new mom so I couldn't help it.
Anyway, she's cool now and she's trying. Yesterday she came over and actually played with my son. He likes her and kept smiling at her.
It's just some people's preference, I guess but as a parent, you can't help but get offended. True, some kids are totally annoying (my son annoys me from time to time) and there are kids I don't like.
It's hard to hear that from a friend but you just gotta try not to take it personally, I guess. After all, everyone has their differences and you have to respect that.
I didn't want kids but now I can't imagine my life without my son and I want to have more. I shouldn't say I hate kids. I should say that parents that spoil their kids and do nothing to correct them when they are being hellions in public are the problem.
I like kids. It's just kids these days are growing up too fast/as spoiled brats. I don't enjoy being around a brat. The kind that will tell you "what you can do and what you can't" or else they will call their mother on you. I also don't think kids should get the latest phone when they are only in the 3rd grade..spoiled !
I don't think I've ever thought about never having kids. When growing up.. I never thought of 'me'.
I think I'm good with kids.
I think part of it depends on how you grow up... I'm an only child and to this day haven't had a lot of interaction with children... I would like to have two (max) in the future, but... at this point, literally every time I walk past the baby section of Target or Walmart I think, "Thank You, God, that I don't have kids." Weird? Maybe. But hey, I'm only 22 - give me a few years and I'll probably change my mind. I don't hate kids or anything - just haven't had much experience. Maybe that's your friend's situation, as well....
Honestly, I'm not sure why some people dislike children, and I'm one of them. I'm 23, and I despise children and out and out hate babies. I cannot really give a reason why, I just do. Out of respect for the parent, though, I try not to let my dislike for children show.
I know someone very similar to your friend. When I announced that I was pregnant, she said "yeah, good luck with that. I'm not coming over anymore." I'm glad we're not really close friends.
I hate kids. What's wrong with that? Some people hate dogs, some hate cats, and some hate homeless people. Why does society pressure us to like kids so much?
I certainly don't want kids. But I do love kids. They're fun.