Tuesday, 02 December 2008
by Mama Fox
At our family Thanksgiving gathering we had to work around the question "What did you ask Santa for?" An innocent question but also a bit confusing to my boys. Why? Because we don't tell them that Santa is a real person. They know about a little about him but at this point they do believe in Santa, the same way I believe in Santa. He is the spirit of joy and giving. They don't think he's a real person but that doesn't make him any less real.
We didn't make any decision about Mr. Claus until last year. Papa Fox and I talked for a long while about it and came to the conclusion that we won't lie to them about it. We both remember the heart breaking days we found out that Santa wasn't real. We think that there's enough magic in the season without adding a fictional character. The boys have been buzzing about Yule for weeks now, none of that has to do with Santa. They have been talking about making cards for family and giving them gifts. Of course being kids, they have their own wish lists. We're working on teaching them that this is a time for celebrating our families and the great year we had, rather then focusing on the materialistic aspects of it. I hope that once they are a little older we can all volunteer some of our time to give to those in need.
I've already had a conversation with H about how some kids believe Santa is a real person that brings presents on Christmas so we need to be careful what we say. I know there will be many talks over the years about not ruining it for other children who do believe. I think "outing Santa" is the parents' job, not something heard on the playground. I would hate for one of my boys to be responsible for a too early talk about that. I'm sure it will probably happen at least once but I'm going to do my best, without lying, to make sure that whatever magic a child believes it stays real for the longest time possible.
How does/did your family handle the Santa question? Did you believe that Santa was real?