Monday, 17 November 2008

  • Netherlands Forcing Contraceptives Upon Women?

    Guest post submitted by sunshinekl@xanga

     

    Forced Contraception

    Currently the Dutch Parliament is trying to pass a draft bill that would force women in the Netherlands, who are deemed "unfit mothers" by the judicial system, to take contraception.   Under the proposed legislation, a women who is judged unfit, yet refuses to take contraception and becomes pregnant, would have her child removed from her care at birth. The infant then would be placed in a foster home.

    (To read the whole article click here.)

    The draft bill does not include any provisions that would place similar restrictions on males.  So basically the men are allowed to go around making babies and abusing babies without any restrictions being placed on them.

    While I can totally understand the desire to protect children from abusive parents, I just have to say- ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  

    This draft bills makes me wonder what exactly is going on in the Netherlands to warrant propositioning a law that forces abusive mothers to take contraception.   Maybe the Dutch government needs take some time to figure out what the root cause of the problem is instead of eradicating basic human rights.  Perhaps this law is actually a "lets control the population law" in disguise. 

    Not only did this story disturb me to the very core of my being but the comments left by readers disturbed me even more.  Comments such as the following:

    "Oh wow, if only this could be passed in AMERICA."

    "You ask me, it's far too lenient a step, and something that should be taken even further than just the Netherlands. You have to get a license to own a weapon, drive a car, fly a plane, etc. But, to bring life into the world? Anyone can do it! I think everyone should be sterelized until they're able to prove their ability (psychologically and socially) to raise a child."

    "Don't sterilize--pay for abortions instead. A single payment of $500 or an option of a trip to Hawaii for everyone who is willing to have an abortion--and suddenly the number of abused and unwanted children would drop."

    Is this what the world has really come to?  On the one hand, people scream "it's my body, my choice to have an abortion" yet on the other hand people are supporting the idea of forced sterilization.  I wonder how many of these people are the same people screaming out of both sides of their mouths. I wonder how many people actually agree with this. Is there a majority or is the or is the majority actually disgusted just as I am?

Comments (78)

  • saxy_grrl@xanga

    It's not just you -- this is insane. That's really all I can say about it. I'm equally disgusted.

  • FOXHOUND_HQ@xanga

    What determines "unfit" status?


    This is something out of Nazi German law!

  • gwacemom

    While I get the general idea behind the plan, I fall into the "are you kidding me?" category. How about more education for the parents or more resources to help out when things become too difficult? Notice I didn't say the mom, I said the parents, because get real.


    I am fearful about how the determinations would be made to deem someone unfit. Also, where is the father in all of this?


    This just seems like someone wasn't thinking this one through very clearly. Interesting topic though. I can't wait to see the comments.

  • spicycajun@xanga

    This is insane and scares the crap out of me

  • tsukiouji@xanga

    at first it semt like a good idea, but  now im like "wtf?!".  this issue  could be solved by education, not by forcibly sterilizing people. people who come from abusive families tend to repeat the same pattern on their own children. there lies the root of this problem. and it needs to be pulled out. clearly what this world needs the most is values (im not a conservative; mind you).  people must be taught from a very early age that the world does not revolve around them, that they need to  care about others.

  • Mom2Be

    I'm sorry, but this is downright scary. I get the point, yes, but the problem of children being abused is a problem that goes far deeper than just eliminating the right to have those children. This is called treating the symptom and ignoring the disease. Yeah, scary!

  • EnneS@xanga

    I completely agree with what you said. That is insane. Plus, who exactly gets to decide who is considered unfit versus fit anyway? I can't believe that some people would actually think this was a good idea.

  • jhm286

    wow.. this is crazy.. there's no mention in here about the fathers, about how they should do something to stop them too, this is just sick. like if its only the mom's fault what about all those children who's fathers abuse them? theres no mention here about the fathers, only the mothers. this is just going to bring more kids into the system instead of helping, its just going to make things worst. they should really sit down and think about it, and prehaps have a women's opinion in there...

  • Mudpies_and_Butterflies

    How do they deem them "unfit" though?  I mean, are they going to interview EVERY SINGLE female or what?  How will the determine who is unfit and who is not?


    I can understand that they want to protect children, but this is kind of going too far.  This is absolutely bogus. 

  • filtered_sunlight@xanga

    First, people, please go read the article before commenting! Whether cut down for word count by Momaroo or whatever, the above does not give all the info. (For instance: "...Dutch parliament recommending that unfit mothers should be forced by law into two years of contraception. Any babies wilfully conceived in that period should be confiscated at birth. Unfit mothers would mean those who have already been in serious trouble because of their bad parenting.")

    "The draft bill does not include any provisions that would place similar restrictions on males.  So basically the men are allowed to go around making babies and abusing babies without any restrictions being placed on them."

    That, IMO, is crap. Personally, I can look at some of the child abuse cases that we hear about here and the truly unfathomably horrorible things that some of the children out there suffer at the hands of their parents and agree with the thought. (I also think it's crap here when parents have their children taken away from them, get pregnant again, have the next kid and just walk out of the hospital with it like somehow it will be different this time. What is that? Does it work? Is the 6th time the charm?)

    I'm for just about anything that prevents the abuse of children. If it's allowing women that aren't strong enough to go through the process of adoption the option of abortion so that they don't have the kid and end up abusing it? Great. I'd rather they terminate the pregnancy before there's any brainwaves than become one of those people that snaps and beats in a 2 year old's skull. If it's limiting the "rights" of some people that have already demonstrated that they can't handle the privilage of having kids? Well, don't the children that are brought into this world have the 'right' not to be abused?

    Unfortunately, mere counseling doesn't work for everyone. If that were the case, we wouldn't have so many sex offenders repeating their crimes after having done jail time and mandatory counseling sessions. Anyone with a quarter of a brain can figure out what the counselors want them to say in order to declare them ready to be released from treatment.

    If we're so concerned about stepping on people's "basic human rights" to have children, why don't we just do away with CPS all together? By this logic, it's their right to have those children. No matter how poorly they're going to take care of them.

    Isn't it more so 'talking out of both sides of one's mouth' to say, "It's bad to have abortions! All life is sacred! But we should let people who are going to abuse life continue have and keep those children until they get caught abusing them again."? I must be missing something here...

  • filtered_sunlight@xanga

    @Mudpies_and_Butterflies - @FOXHOUND_HQ@xanga - "...Dutch parliament recommending that unfit mothers should be forced by law into two years of contraception. Any babies wilfully conceived in that period should be confiscated at birth. Unfit mothers would mean those who have already been in serious trouble because of their bad parenting."

  • iwantmycheez@xanga

    I'm a bit war of applying the United States' views of civil liberties and such on other nations, but I do see your point. They should be looking at why these people are unfit parents in the first place, and perhaps they wouldn't need to go back to eugenics.

  • Mudpies_and_Butterflies

    @filtered_sunlight@xanga - Haha, I knew I was forgetting something!  Thank you for reminding that there is a link up there, now I can have more info on the subject  .


    Off to get the FULL story...Maybe it'll make more sense then!


    MAKE SURE TO CLICK THE LINK TO READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE PEOPLE!

  • dryvona@xanga

    Maybe someone should propose chemical castration for any male siring a child out of wedlock, just to make them take a second look at this?

  • Mudpies_and_Butterflies

    Okay having read the full article, I have to agree to a point with there reasoning of this.  As filtered_sunlight said, the article states that


    "Unfit mothers would mean those who have already been in serious trouble because of their bad parenting.''


    I agree whole heartedly about this.  If parents are abusive to their children and they have another baby, odds are that they are going to abuse the baby as well.  An abusive parent does not have the right to have another baby, unless they fix themselves, if it can be done.


    The article also states that:


    "Dijken’s idea is to try to prevent a new pregnancy in a family whose existing children are already in care until the situation has improved enough for them to be able to come back home. Two years might be a suitable period. If, after the suggested two years of compulsory contraception, the family is still not safe for children, the contraception order could be extended by a judge’s review."


    Which makes sense also.

  • la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga

    I'm pretty much okay with that. I mean, it's intrusive, but the government already intrudes on my life in plenty of ways. So, I say, have at it.

  • Brilliant_Innocence@xanga

    I read the whole article and am still just as disgusted as you are!!!!

  • gwacemom

    @filtered_sunlight@xanga - (hanging head in shame) I admit, I didn't read the article prior to commenting. Having done so, I see more clearly the point of the measure.


    My biggest concern was how the mother was deemed unfit. I now see how that would occur. Next time I shall read first comment last.

  • tortallcit@xanga

    Freedom: The ability to do stupid things.

  • Beautiful_Disaster_74@xanga

    I'm probably going to get flamed for part of what I'm going to say here, but...so be it.  What's an open discussion forum if people can't discuss what they think openly? 


    I agree that something like this proposed law could be applied too broadly, and without very strict definitions of who would be affected by the law and how they would be specifically affected, it could be abused.  That said, our own American court system already does take children away from mothers at birth when those mothers' other children have already been removed from their care because of abuse, neglect, or the mother's drug or alcohol addiction. 


    And you know what?  I think that's fine.  I think it's great, in fact, because children have rights, too!  So while I don't think any government has the right to prevent people from becoming pregnant or bearing children, it DOES have a right and an obligation to protect its citizenry from having their human rights violated.  That includes protecting children from being violated by unfit parents who will abuse them, neglect them, or be so strung-out on drugs or alcohol during gestation or after the child is born to be any kind of loving, nurturing parent. 


    As for the question of why we don't do this to the men, too, it's simple biology.  If a government mandates that certain women, because of their crimes against children, must be prevented from conceiving additional children whom they will also likely abuse, then a doctor can administer injections (like Depo-Provera) to or place implants (like Mirena) in these women, and be reasonably assured that she will not be able to conceive for a proscribed amount of time.  She will still be able to have sex; she just won't be able to conceive.  Such procedures are not permanent, and as such, if a woman was found to be reformed at some later point, she could simply stop receiving the injections or have her implant removed, restoring her fertility.  With a man, however, the only thing that could be done short of permanent surgical sterilization to make sure he doesn't get someone pregnant is to give him Depo-Provera, which will render him unable to achieve an erection, and therefore, unable to have sex--clearly overkill unless a man is a child molester or a rapist, but a procedure that is, in fact, used in America to "de-sex" paroled child molesters and rapists and is a condition of parole for many such offenders. 


    One final note: It's easy to scream about "human rights" for these convicted criminals, but until you've looked into the eyes of someone you love and realize how messed-up their childhood was because of one or both of their parents being an abuser or an addict, you're just talking out of your ass.  Someone very precious to me grew up in a house where mother and father both were alcoholic drug addicts.  He can remember plenty of times when there was a full case of beer in the fridge, but no food.  He can remember years when there was no Christmas because his parents were too fucked-up to be bothered to do anything.  He can remember not going on school field trips because his parents drank up all the money, and couldn't even afford to give him three dollars--and that's if they could even sober up enough to sign the damn permission slip.  He can remember being hungry a lot.  I see how now, even as a grown man, he's afraid to let the fridge get empty, or to get too excited about the holidays because he might be disappointed again.  Others may have sympathy for miserable excuses for parents and human beings having their "rights" infringed upon, but as far as I'm concerned, they should consider themselves lucky that their government doesn't imprison them, or just execute them outright.  In many cases, it's no less than they deserve. 

  • pillowpixies@xanga

    @filtered_sunlight@xanga - It's about time somebody pointed that out!

  • SeiGe_Jet@xanga

    Best.Plan. Ever. I don't see it any different as a self destructive moron with suicidal tendencies. People who can't help themselves must have the freedom stripped from them. I can understand why there isn't a provision for men - let me add that I do NOT agree that men should go around shooting their seed everywhere - but let's face it, the court system is horrible bias for women and ten times out of eleven, they'd get custody.


  • der_lila_Stern@xanga

    I think the idea behind it is a really good one.  The logistics of it are hairy at the moment - but that is always true of a draft bill!


    Besides, I strongly believe contraceptives should be available for free to anyone who wants them!  (Including condoms, the pill, the shot, even getting 'fixed')

  • azkzD@xanga
    Even after reading the whole article I still think this is horrible and scary. What will stop them down the road from imposing this law on others just because they don’t agree with their way of life or belief system? I know some mom who read and comment on momaroo homeschool or decide not to immunize their children....Someday this might be considered "bad parenting".

  • MangoWOW@xanga

    Well... what determines being a fit or unfit mother? I think thats really up in the air there...
    While I never thought as far as forcing contraceptives (Lets not even get into how unfair it is that there is currently no idea's to stop unfit men from spreading their seed) I always thought it would be a good idea that no one be allowed to have children unless they passed some sort of test to show they can use common sense and are able to raise kids....

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