Thursday, 13 November 2008
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An Innocent Question About A Hot-Button Issue
Guest post submitted by impossibleangles
Driving home from the grocery store, my four year-old girl asked me, "Why did you get married, have babies, but not bring them to the doctor to be killed?" She couldn't have known that her question would sucker punch me. She couldn't have known how close to home she hit as this memory flooded my brain. I was thankful I had driving to concentrate on or I wouldn't have been able to stop the rushing tide of my sorrow.
I probed for more info as to why she'd ask that. She had heard my conversation with my 9 year-old son, who, thanks to his tuning into the election, wanted to know about abortion, gay rights, the economy, and other hot-button issues. So, I told him everything, unaware that Elise's ears were extremely attentive and that she would later put together some pieces of our conversation puzzle.
I still hadn't given her a response as I examined everything I could have told her. Finally, I decided to answer simply with, "Because I love you guys and I love your dad."
"Good," she replied, smiling thoughtfully. "Because I didn't want to be killed."
Has any of your kids asked a question that hit too close to home or was about a hot-button issue?
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Comments (31)
That's your little girl? She's precious, and beautiful inside and out (like her mom, of course).
I'm happy to have read this a second time.
@Amarisa@xanga - That is NOT my little one. Momaroo added the photo, but if you click the link and scroll down, you can see photos of both my kiddos.
Wow - what an intuitive four year old! I love her reply - very heartfelt and faithfilled. Thanks for posting - even though I've never been asked a question like that by any of my kids, they have howver, brought up the hot button topics of gay marriage and abortion, and we do talk about it in our home -it's just not personal for me.
@impossibleangles@xanga - Ahahaha, I saw the picture with ice cream or something on her face. So cute!
I love how loving they can be in their innocence!
@Amarisa@xanga - Thanks [= That was the first time she had an ice cream cone.
Wow, that is just overwhelming. How blessed you are to have such a beautiful daughter. Such a witness you can now be. Very very good post. Both of them.
I wouldve had to pull the car over. Just reading this entry (and the one you linked) made my stomach sink. Im glad you made the choice to have her.. because now she can tell you shes glad too.. thats just amazing.
Wow! Your little girl is so precious! Thank you for sharing this!!
Wow. Is all I have to say. Beautiful. And so touching. Full circle.
awesome.
Wow. I am totally in tears.
God bless you.
This is beautiful.
I can't imagine what you must have felt with all of that history racing through your mind, but it will be a wonderful lesson later in life about the power of choice and the consequences as well. That probably doesn't help when you are in the hot seat though.
My kids ask about my dead brother whenever they see his pictures in the photo album or whenever they hear the word dead. It brings me to tears every time because they will never know what a wonderful person he was and how much he wanted to be an uncle.
Beautiful touching story. I'm sure God has a very special plan for your little girl. Bless you for sharing.
Yes my 6 year old was watching the Martina McBride Concrete Angel Music Video and she asked why the little girl had bruises and why she had to die. I cried just for the fact that I had to tell her.
that's cute.
The only hot button issue any kid has asked me was about gay rights.
My desktop wallpaper used to be 2 of my guy friends kissing and it brought up the subject :/
At first they giggled and thought it was weird but now they understand that's its normal.
I love being able to raise my nieces, nephews, and little cousins in an open minded household :) They are my heart.
@Ancient_Scribe@xanga - He has and does every day. [=
I should not read Xanga when I'm at wor!. Going back and reading your post on the issue...gah :::tears:::
Children are so amazing. Nothing is beyond them. We think they don't get it, it's over their head....but man, they KNOW what's going on and they get it.
Your daughter is gorgeous, by the way!
@yourheadispunk@xanga - They get it, more than I do sometimes. Okay, a lot of times. Thanks, she is kinda cute ;) but that's not her on this page - Momaroo added that photo
@impossibleangles@xanga - (I saw the pictures of her on the blog post you linked to.)
@ArmyKnightsWife - It's really tough - and heartbreaking - explaining the way life beyond your own doors is, isn't it?
@thinkin_up_dreams@xanga - Good that you were open with them. Some parents just don't want to open certain dialogues.
@Missgal@xanga - Thanks [=
@yourheadispunk@xanga - Thanks [=
@la_vida_linda@xanga - I'm so sorry for your loss. They may not be able to experience him first hand, but they will know how awesome he was through you and your stories.