Friday, 07 November 2008
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Show This Post to the Guys -A Man's Worth
Guest post submitted by La_dolce_vida
Women often grumble and complain that boys/men drive them crazy and there are countless articles putting men down because they're inept at this and that. But I want to take this opportunity to say that a man's worth is immeasurable.
As a child protective services social worker, I've interviewed roughly 720 children to date and out of those 720, about half come from single mother homes. Most have neither never met their father nor see them often. Most of these kids are maladjusted. The boys grow up to be gangsters and the girls grow up getting involved in bad relationships and end up getting pregnant young.
I want to speak on behalf of these children and give you guys this message:- Your role in your child(ren) or future child(ren) is of utmost importance
- Not only are you Mr. Fix-it but you are your child's superhero
- Your child looks forward to you teaching them about life
- Your child doesn't want to think that he/she was the reason why you left their mother
- The value that you add to your child's life by being involved is immense
- Your child wants to be able to go to school to tell their friends the fun times they had with you instead of saying they never see you
- Just because you're no longer with their mother, it doesn't mean you should stop being their father
- Your child loves it when you spend time with them
- Your child wants to grow up one day to be just like you, so set a good example
- You are your child's protector, against monsters under the bed and the Boogeyman
- You are also the one who sits by the door with a shotgun when your daughter goes on her first date
- Your child wants to hear you say "Attaboy!" after he's scored his first goal or hit his first home run
I know that most of you don't have children and are probably are not going to anytime soon but please think about how your role affects children's lives. If you are going to have children, make sure you are with the right person so that single mother families don't multiply. If you don't intend to have children, please use a condom! There is no need for "oopsies"!
I honestly never realized how important the role of men in life really is until I've talked to these children. Men, know that you are revered in children's eyes. Know that you and you alone could affect our future president, teachers, doctors, etc.!
How important do you think a father's role is in the life of a child?
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Comments (16)
You're absolutely right! Fathers are so very important in their children's lives. Growing up, my dad worked a lot, so my brother and I didn't see much of him. But then there were those weekends he would take off work and take us out in the boat and go fishing. Those are the days I remember! Sitting out on the river with a fishing pole in our hands, the marsh swishing in the wind, just enjoying the moments waiting for the trout to bite. Those are the moments I will always treasure with my dad!
Thank you for this, a lot of men probably feel the same way.
I think a father in a child's life is very important for most of the same reasons that you stated above. And even though the father may have some flaws (my step father WAS an abusive drunk, but he always made it his business to get all his girls together every weekend)
Just the little things can go a long way.
great post!...as a man who went through his whole childhood in foster care, i was lucky to finally meet my dad, in my twenties...this made all the difference, in my life, even at that late age...and, finally, let me add this...a father is a daughter's first love, and a son's first hero...thank for sharing your thoughts...peace, animal
A father's role is very important in a child's life. My parents' divorced when I was 8 and I never saw my father after that and even to this day, I haven't seen him. My mother remarried when I was 17 so my stepdad is who I really call 'Dad' since he's been there for me always.
Thank you for standing up for the role of the father. You never see it any more, especially in the media. (It's about mothers, mothers, mothers, mom this, mom that, whatever happened to Dad? I'm not putting mothers down, I love my mom, but I love my dad too and he was involved in my life after the divorce, and very much so.) Fathers taking an active role in their children's lives even if they ARE still with the mother is crucial. If you don't spend time with your children and do your part to raise them, you aren't a real man. I don't have children, but I remember what my father's influence and involvement was in my life, and I damn sure intend to be in my children's lives whether I stay married to their mother (when it happens) or not.
My dad always played the bad guy...and my siblings and I were the Mutant Ninja Turtles, haha. My dad use to comb my hair and let me watch slasher flicks when Mom wasn't home. We use to hit junk with a sledge hammer and he'd throw me in the pool. He let me rollar skate in the house and we'd catch fire flies in July. He gave me an extra scoop of ice cream and let me run outside without my shoes rain or shine. He was the angry one when I was teenager and came home with black dye over my red hair. He use to work late but still come to my violin recitals...even if he fell asleep in the audience. We sing Deep Purple and Led Zeppelin at the top of or lungs when we're in the car. He takes me bowling and listens to my radio show even when he doesn't get it. He calls me his flower child...but...he and my mom have divorced since I was 11...but he made time.
@Random_Goldfish@xanga - LOL. Do we have the same Dad?
I'm not in any way dis'ing the idea that having a father is great, but this seems a little bias. It's also fair to say that "about half" of those 720 kids come from two-parent homes and are still in need of help from CPS.
Preaching to the choir.
I love this post.
Fathers are so important-children really do need two parents in their lives! My dad was in the Navy so I never got to see him as much as I wanted, but the times we spent together I will always remember fondly.
Excellent, excellent post! One of the best I've read on Momaroo! So true in every way!
great post :)
I totally agree that kids need two parents, but that's not always the way life turns out. When I got married I fully intended it to be for life. But life didn't turn out that way either.
The father of my children choices not to take responsibility for his children. I can not force him to care. I really wish he did cause I know they will be affected by his indifference in the future. But what can I do other than be the best parent and role model I can. I can't change the fact that I didn't choice a responsible father for my kids. All I can do is my best.
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