Thursday, 30 October 2008
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Do You Feel Closer to One Child More Than the Other?
Guest blog submitted by Tedder6
Ok, I know some of you will take this the wrong way, and I just hope you don't think I am a horrible mother. I have been thinking some on this, and wondering if other parents feel the same. Do you sometimes feel closer to one child more then the other at times?
I was talking to my MIL the other day explaining how at times I feel closer to one (though it changes all the time, so really it evens out), but that I love them all the same. She stopped me and said, "Jerusha, no you don't." At first I was kinda taken back, then she explained how you can't love them all the same. They are all different people with their own quirks and qualities. She said she loved Greg the best for his gentle and loving spirit, how he will go out of his way to make people feel welcomed and included. She loved Chris for his willingness to do anything for anybody, and Pam because of her sweet nature, and because she is her girl.
It finally made sense to me. I don't love my kids the same, but I love them all equally. I love the softness to things of the Lord that I see in Donevin. He is like his daddy. He genuinely loves people, he is smart, and so funny and cleaver. He asks questions that are so beyond what I think a child of 5 even thinks of. He is my little man. A grown up in a little boys body.
Isaac is very different. He challenges me as a mother, but he is so wonderful. He has a LOT of energy, and is very rambunctious, but he is very loving, and friendly. He is wild, but not mean. He makes friends quickly, and wants to help all the time. For all the energy contained in that little body,he will calm down to come sit on my lap and cuddle.And oh how that child can make me laugh. I can be in the middle of a very harsh scolding, and he will do something that makes me run out of the room for a good laugh. He is my baby boy, and I don't think that will ever change.
Bella is a mess. She is very emotional, and sassy, but will a little control, I see a very loving and understanding little girl. She is very bright and loves to do girlie things. She is a natural nurturer, and wants to help me all the time. She loves babies and animals. And she is just so so stinking cute. I am excited to seethe little personality she is cultivating.
Olivia, my little miracle baby. I know God has great things in store for her. He saved her because he knows the world needed her in it. Her verse is Jeremiah 29:11, because God has a plan, and it is for Life, Hope, and a great future. When they told me I was miscarrying her, God told me no, that she will do great and mighty things. Praise God for His plans.
Okay, so now it is your turn. Tell me the wonderful things you see in your children. And be honest, do you ever feel a little closer at times to one over the other?
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There are DEFINITELY times I feel closer to one child than the other. And I totally agree that we love our children in different ways. I don't love one more than the other but I love my son for his humor. He can make me laugh all the time and he is just so sweet (when he's not being a smart mouth - one of the things I DON'T love about him right now!) And then there's my daughter. She is just such a sassy little thing - but so loving - always willing to give kisses and hugs and love on me for a few minutes.
Yes, I do. Sometimes I really feel closer to one of the twins. That comes when the other one gets stubborn. But I try my best to brush off that feeling 'coz it would be unfair to the other twin. Besides, they both are really lovable.
My two year old is autistic and because of this I feel such a feirceness in me to protect him. We have our own way of communicating, just him and I. And we are very close because of it.
My second child, a 4 month old boy, is quite differnet! I feel very relaxed with him and he is such a bundle of joy, all smiles and giggles and coos. With Landen, it's a tenderness, a deeper connection, with Aiden, it's pure joy!
Great blog! I think most every mother could relate!
I can definitely say I love my children differently.
Jacob is one of those kids that like everyone and everyone likes him. He's high energy, happy and always goofy and he always stands up for his friends and people smaller than him. In my opinion, at almost 6 he's very noble. I lvoe that about him
Kaitlyn is a force, and I love that about her. She's so little but with a personality 10x her size, she's goofy, bossy, needy and just a 30 1/4 inch tall force.
Believe me when I say that I too, Having 3 growing children in which my oldest will be turning 18 soon is very hard to get along with then my 2 youngest. I bend over backwards & fowards to try to make things work between us & don't get me wrong, I love her just as much as I love the others.
I've caught myself at given times wondering why I bothered having kids & yes they are very different in alot of ways.
Our only boy is totaly different from the girls & He is the gentle way about how he treats his family/friends. He doesn't like or apply himself in school like his older sister.
Our youngest daughter is a combonation like both her sister/brother... She acts like her sister with an aditude & is rebelling in schoolwork like her brother. She also has been giving me a problem with being a sassy, tatletaling brat lately at home & in school.
It's hard to say that at times to wheather I love them all the time.... Meaning..
Sometimes I catch myself not being able to love them because at times they give me all sort of problems to a point I find myself upset, angry, mad,stressed out at all of them.
@lifepretainingtomyids@xanga - I am sorry you are having such a hard time. I hope it will calm down soon.
I always feel closer to my mom than my dad
Lol I guess cause my dad doesnt like me as much* cause I dont look like him - where as my younger sis does
So my younger sis is like Daddy's Little Girl
Sometimes its kinda obvious which one your parents like
As for my dad case: he would give my sis money*, and wouldnt give me any
(and my sister is working too, me on the other hand i dont work cause of school)
Not that I mind, but yeah ..........
I seem to be the forgotten one
When Im out, I come home at 12am and the doors would be LOCKED AND CHAINED
why? cause my dad didnt noticed that I went out& he would be the last person to close/ chain the door
Definately, there are different loves because they are all different. My oldest is very compassionate. He is a helper and wants to make everyone happy. Our middle is very...strong willed and our youngest we can already see is the joker of the family. That being said each child is different and so in return I treat them differently. We attempted to teach them to grow the same but it just doesn't work that way. They have to be educated differently. One of our boys is a snuggle bug and is always cuddling up to me. The others don't like that so much so they aren't bothered by that. The oldest wakes earlier than the others so that is our time to bond. We talk about the day and what we should do etc... the baby is just showing his great personality and is going into his independant stage. He likes to do everything himself and that's fine. He may come around and want to snuggle or he may want to bond in different ways all together.
I have my moments where I feel "What the *#@$ am I doing" I have really yet to experience a moment that I haven't loved all of them