@BABY_LETSGETTHIN@xanga - Just because you have been dating this boy for seven months doesn't mean that you are ready to have sex with him. Sex is an ADULT activity and at fourteen years old you are not an adult by any means. 

Have you ever had a real job? Do you have a driver's license? Have you ever balanced a check book or payed a bill all by yourself? 

Maybe these things don't sound related to sex, but they are. They are all indicative of the maturity and responsibility that is necessary to truly deal with the possible consequences of sex. Of course sexual desire can happen when you're fourteen, but that doesn't mean that you are old enough to act on it. I would earnestly encourage you to wait. You aren't even of a legal age to consent to sex, and there is a reason for that.

THANK YOU.

In this generation, sex is EVERYWHERE. Television, music, movies, magazines; you name it, and unfortunately, all of those things play a huge role in a teenager's life. They will be influenced by what they see and hear, making it damn-near impossible to be a virgin in the 21st century. If you're going to be sexually active, and you don't want babies, you must be on birth control! Can't we all at least agree that that's better than another unplanned baby in the world?

Well said !

Hey Ladies, I am a father to 3 small girls the eldset is just turning 10 and my wife and I both are kinda shit scared on what might happen when our girls are older and err 'more active'. I happend to see this string on a very thoughtful topic hence here I am to react a bit and add to what's being said.

The idea of handing over contracePtives does seem nice but I think its kind of giving a tacit go ahead for sex....rather 'early sex'. As parents dont we know that there's a time and moment for virtually everything in our lives. We get our driving licences only when we attain a certain age, can vote only after we're old enough. Can go for dates 'after' a certain age, can come home late (!) 'after' a certain age. Taking a cue from this should we not try to inculcate THIS habit / practice in our children that there are certain times for certain things in our lives. That we should not unnecessarily fast forward our lives just cos we 'felt like having it'. There are things like awareness about sex and its complications, abstinence and the reasoning of it on which we ...not only parents but schools AND parents of the friends..should TALK to the young adults on.

I certainly abide by the point of the schools TAKING OVER the lives of OUR children and teaching them THEIR values. We actually refused admissions of our children to one popular day long school where in our opinion the school would have had more time with the children (considering the awake hours) than we parents would have had. The school thought it was a good idea to 'help' the parents..we booed the idea and came off. Our point was we're sending to school to SUPPLEMENT the kids to some knowledge and ways of live, not be as the main provider of information on ways of life.

So I feel its more of 'communicating' to the kids on whats the right ways of life and whats not so right. There would be exceptions in every ways of life. But then we dont set the rules for the vast majority governed by the few exceptions. Exceptions would have to be handled separately. Lets not colour every young adult with the same thought or expectation.

I am sorry if I have been a bit too much but its a very important topic and I was like..i went on..!! Thanks for reading through if you did!!

@bellydancegirl8@xanga -

"@mamahippo - I think you just said all of that because you were a slut that had premarital sex.

Keep your legs closed and teach your children to do the same. People like you shouldn't be having babies."

Excuse me?  Are you fucking serious?? 

lol if kids are going to be fucking retarted then let them get pregnant/get someone pregnant and learn the hard way. failing to use protection can ruin the rest of your life. when i have kids, i will give them birth control/condoms.....but only if they are strong enough to ask.

and they will do it anyway.....weather you want them to or tell them not to....most teens will do it. i'm gonna leave it up to them to tell me and be strong enough to ask for condoms or birth control. might as well be safe....

Kids pushing the envelope!!!

Cant say I was surprised.

@MyPrecious@xanga - Blaming the media doesn't help -- both sex and violence are facts of life, and people need to be exposed to them. However, children do need some guidance toward unbiased sources in order to make an informed, educated decision.

If the students are over the age of consent, then refusing birth control is just ridiculous. If the law says they're old enough to have sex, then they're old enough to make decisions about being protected. If they're UNDER the age of consent, however, we have a completely different problem on our hands.

Still, our bodies mature and move us toward the idea of sex at a societally "early" age. While these girls may not really be mature enough to have children and raise them, and may be too young for hormonal contraceptives to be advisable (mostly due to side effects and whatnot), they should at least be offered condoms. Last I checked (aside from latex allergies, and there's always silicone!), condoms don't have any side effects.

As a teenager I feel I can give a unique view to this topic. First, I'll admit I'm not an angel, and I have had sex but my knowledge does not only come from personal experience but also my peers. Secondly, I would like to say that I have gotten involved with this topic on the community level. I have joined a group sponsored by the local red cross called peer educators. I travel to the middle schools and highschools in the community giving presentations about the prevention of AIDS and thus - in extention- condoms.
Many of the comments I have read on this topic have the same theory going on. Many assume that if you talk to your kids about staying abstinent they are going to listen. Yes, I agree. This is a good thing to teach. Also, getting involved in your children's lives is a good thing as well. But, the truth is, teenagers do make their own decisions, whether stupid ( and many of them are ) or not. If they want to have sex they will. And they WILL find away around all the precautions you have set.
So this aside, do you want them to be safe? Many children do not want to tell their parents that they are sexually active. If they aren't going to, do you want them to have the opportunity to protect themselves? Yes, I understand that keeping the birth control situation non-confidential it tries to keep children from keeping it a secret from you. But it wont. They will do it anyway. And I'm sure you all want your childrent to be safe.

( " but my kid isn't like that". right? Even the smartest, most involved, most sincere child would suprise you. you should hear the things I hear on a daily basis.)