Monday, 07 July 2008
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Mom and Dad Role Reversal
Do you sometimes feel like you're a dad more than you're a mom? I have thought long and hard on my position as a mother and realized more and more that I am a lot like a male role in the family than a female. On the other hand, my fiance is more of a female than a male.
The only difference that we have is he works and I am a stay at home mom. He surprised me the other day - he is more than happy to take the stay at home dad part, being a househusband. If I have the ability to work full time, bringing home same amount as his work, then I would trade places with him.
In my opinion, I do see that he can be a better dad than I can be a mom. You know how a lot of times, you would think of dad as a escape and shelter from mom, look forward to the end of the day when dad gets off work and sit on his lap to tell him stories of your day?
See, Joshua does a lot of discipline in the house, he punishes the children and sticks with the rules. Me, I just bend the rules, give kids sweets before dinner rather than later, keep them up late ("Shh, it is our secret, don't tell dad"). I am more of a thinker and Joshua is more of a doer. I get the temper, he is calm and patient.
But I am just curious. Are any of the "typical" mom and dad roles reversed in your family?
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Honestly, I'd have to say that short of the biological functions of motherhood, I have always taken the traditional male role, and my husband the female role, down to who gets up in the middle of the night (him). If we were ever to attempt a traditional home, it would fall apart! I don't presume to think this arrangement would work for everyone, but don't knock it till you've tried it.
Actually, those descriptions for me are reversed. Dad is the one who enforces things and I would always run to Mom for refuge. Weird.
i know, i always thought i'm like the dad and my husband is like the mom...
At one point in my life, no... these roles were TIGHTLY stuck too... down to the fact that the father barely even said a word. Anyways, I married someone else a year or so later and the roles are very much reversed. I work more than he does in a typical week (currently anyways). he does more of the potty training now (and the like). He gets up with the kids in the middle of the night... I haven't seen a middle of the night in at least 6 months (unless I'm working). We share the household responsibilities... aside from mowing, which he does.
At one point in my life, no... these roles were TIGHTLY stuck too... down to the fact that the father barely even said a word. Anyways, I married someone else a year or so later and the roles are very much reversed. I work more than he does in a typical week (currently anyways). he does more of the potty training now (and the like). He gets up with the kids in the middle of the night... I haven't seen a middle of the night in at least 6 months (unless I'm working). We share the household responsibilities... aside from mowing, which he does.
I think I am just like you. =) I like spoiling my son but at the same time I try and be somewhat stern, but I just can't do it sometimes. Haha. I like being the nice guy. =)
I guess if you look at roles that way, I grew up with 'reversed' parents and my husband and I are too. I am more likely to just give in with the kids and my husband can be (in my opinion) too strict/harsh sometimes. With me, it has to do with the energy...sometimes I just don't have the energy to 'fight' the kids anymore after being with them ALL DAY LONG!