Wednesday, 02 July 2008
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My Husband Made Me Cry
by Mama Fox
Up until now I haven't been doing anything besides breastfeeding (great weight lost tool there), chasing after my children and just eating healthy to get back into shape. I'm still squishy but I'm now only 10 pounds from my pre-kids wieght. Seriously, 10 pounds away from what I weighed at 17 years old. How awesome is that?! Back then I was hovering between 120 and 125lbs. Today I'm 135lbs.
But it was okay.
I have the wide hips, the squishy belly of skin and chunky thighs. I am not toned in any way except my arms from carrying around babies and toddlers for 4 1/2 years. I'm pretty much okay with the way my body is. I mean I am wonder woman. I created life (with a little help) and carried it in my body for 10 months! Three separate times! Of course that was going to reupholster my body. I have pregnancy service stripes (aka stretch marks) and I wear them proudly. Not that I would go around showing my stomach to people but I know they are there as a testament to my achievements.
I've been exercising off and on for the last 6 months. Not enough to do me any good of course. Papa Fox was talking about buying an elliptical to get me up and moving but other bills always come first. Then my mom won a contest at her work and was able to pick a prize. She was having a hard time with it because there was nothing she really wanted. I told her to pick the elliptical and we would pay her for it. It was delivered a couple of weeks ago and now sits as a constant reminder in the living room corner.
The kids have played on it more then I have. Seriously, I'm dead tired from end of cosleeping battles, cleaning, and making sure my older boys don't kill each other. Why would I want to jump on that thing for 30 minutes every day? Even the idea of buying new clothes when I hit my goal weight doesn't help motivate me.
Papa Fox has to exercise on his own since they aren't doing PT at the academy this week. So he's on this kick of "You will exercise when I exercise." Sure honey, whatever you say. Then I made the mistake of jumping on the elliptical. I planned on going for 10 minutes then quitting, figuring I can push out 10 minutes without much problem. Papa Fox decided to stand there and actually ORDER me to do 30 minutes. He yelled at me whenever I slowed down, telling me not to quit, that I can do it. It hurt. I hated him. I felt like passing out. I cried. I did 27 minutes and 20 seconds. I'm pleased with myself, even if I did fall over later when trying to stretch it out.
That was Sunday. I'm not sure if I can do it without Papa Fox there making sure I don't quit but I can have him in my head. My own little Drill Instructor husband. I'll hate him and I'll cry but damnit I'm going to work out and get my body back.What motivates you to exercise and get back in shape?
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my hips are wide and my belly is full of fat. my body looks small in the pictures, dont' know why...
but i am defintely looking healthier before i had baby...
I know an opinions from a 15-year-old doesn't much count, and I haven't had and children, but I do have the stretch marks.
I am not heavy, just bigger than every other girl around. I made the commitment to lose wait this summer, I have been eating amazingly healthy and running every morning for about 40 minutes. What drive's me IS the clothes. I look around and see awesome clothing that I could only wish I could wear.
Now, 6 weeks later, I have lost... *drum roll* ....6 pounds. Yeah, Apparently, I am not doing something right. Haha. But you know what, I am proud of every single pound I lost. And I will keep losing more, I am down a size! Haha.
great job!!! I hope you'll be lucky enough to return to your pre-baby weight. You should share with us your work out routine. I'm sure all moms would love to give it a try!!!
Good luck and I hope that the elliptical continues to help and challenge you :D
@nluvwgreenday@xanga - Keep it up! Even without losing much weight, your body will be healthier and that's always something to be proud of.
I started Weight Watchers and trying to walk 35-minutes a day and have been going strong for over 3 months now...and have lost over 30lbs! My motivation is being able to run around after my 2-yeard-old without wanting to pass out. AND the fact that I want to have more kids, but I don't want to get pregnant on top of the extra pounds I already have. I have an elliptical machine that I bought off craigslist and it's a crappy little rickety thing, and I hate it. I am much more motivated to push my self into walking farther and longer when I'm outside in the neighborhood. I can't do but like 15 minutes on the dang elliptical 'cuase I get bored too easily. At least outside there is stuff to look at, neighbors to wave to, etc.
I really need to slim down before I get pregnant, but it's so hard to get motivated!!
I would of cried because my partner was constantly pointing out that I needed to work out when I only weighed 135. How sad. You gave him children, he should just be quiet.
I'm in the battle too girls!! I found www.sparkpeople.com so very, very helpful!! I also read somewhere that walking 1 hr. a day at a consistant pace, no stopping... is all the exercise your body needs. (????) I have found that them more walking I do, the more in-shape and weight I loose. Only 17lbs. left to go... is it true you gain less weight with yours second then you did with your first??
@nluvwgreenday@xanga - muscle weighs more than fat. so pay attention to how you feel and look, not the scale! Keep it up.
@soapbox_sara@xanga - Oh it's not like that. I guess looking back at that it makes him seem really mean but he really just wants me to be happy. He sees that I get depressed that I can't fit into my old clothes, how I don't really have nice clothes because I've been pregnant most of the last 5 years and my weight has gone up and down. He doesn't care how much I weight or if I'm saggy and squishy, he just wants a happy wife.
@RysGirl99@xanga - I love sparkpeople! It's been a bit help.
I gained about the same with my 1st and 2nd (about 50lbs) which was weird because my eating habits with both were completely different. I was a fast food junkie the first time and all healthy foods the 2nd and 3rd time. With my last one I gained I think 25 maybe 30lbs but I was also a lot more active.
@mamafox - Oh good! I read that and just thought...that's kind of mean! You have that picture of you and you look GREAT! Good for you if that's what you want. Good luck! I can relate to the "old clothes" thing...it's nice to be able to put them on, I am struggling to do that right now. At least you have the baby "excuse" I just like food too much...
My motivation is that I'm turning 25 and am going to college with a bunch of 18-21 year olds who have never had kids and it makes me feel just a wee bit older than 25. I never had a very active life when I was a kid. My dad wouldn't let me join in any sports for some reason. Whereas my husband played every sport under the sun and is extremely athletic. We made a goal to do a triathlon in a year and I want to not make a fool of myself. Plus, I want to be a good example for my two kids. I want them to enjoy exercise... not because it's a means to lose weight, but because it's part of a healthy lifestyle.
My motivation? Well, I want to be healthy, set a good example for my children, and also I want to be hot for the hubby and myself. I want to feel good in my clothes again. I want to be able to wear more variety. I want to be confident. I am not saying that you can be heavier and confident, but I feel better when I'm more fit. I just want to feel better.
Right now, I feel like my fat is weighing me down, in more ways than one. And I too am working on getting more fit and toned.
Good luck<3.
You can do it!!! I know you can!!!
Wow! I am trying to lose some too! I have three kids about 2yrs apart and I gained 20 with each and it stuck. I breastfeed each child for at least a yr (longer for my first and last) and it didn't seem to help me with losing weight. I was very active after I had my first but less so with my 2nd and 3rd (too many kids to chase so we play in the yard) but in the end it didn't really matter I gained equally with each child. I am now jogging every other morning for 30 min (3 laps around my neighborhood) using the "kill joe" jog (my hubby taught it to me, army slow jog, really a walking pace but swinging arms and picking up feet higher) Then lifting weights on the days I don't jog and doing crunches before I go to sleep the days I do jog. So far I haven't noticed anything on the scale but I have noticed my bra isn't so tight and my watch is loose on my wrist. I had to learn to stand up and keep my shoulders back or I would have muscle cramps mid back really bad but that so far has been my only set back. 2 weeks and still going strong! Good luck to you all!
My motivation was being sick of feeling like I lacked the energy to keep up with the kids and the housework. What I ended up doing was walking, walking everywhere, and ended up going from a size 18 to a size 12. It was soooo hard at first I thought I would die, really, lol. But when I kept at it I notice I felt better overall, which lent itself to keeping at it and doing more. That was last year, now I am pregnant again, I'll have to 'start over' but I know I can do it.
looking at womens magazines and staring at the models. if you think it, you can be it!!
wow....sounds rough. i guess a drill instructor can be a motivator...maybe.
I love walking with the stroller at the zoo. My biggest exercise obstacle is my hubby's schedule right now, it throws everything off! I like getting exercise, makes me feel better and it's good to get out and get some fresh air everyday, so hopefully his schedule will straighten out soon and everyone can get back on track.
plug in your favorite music or tv show and pace yourself slowly- the time will pass pretty quickly and you'll be able to go a little longer each time you hop on again
I'm sorry but am I the only one who thinks this is completely wrong??? Your husband shouldn't give a hoot about your weight! You are a beautiful person who gave him three children, takes care of his household, and probably worships the ground he walk on! No I'm sorry thats not right! Now I used to be 120 before kids now I'm in the 2's sorry I hate my weight so I won't completely justify it, but seriously I gained a ton but I refuse to let ANYONE even my husband down talk me or make me feel like crap. Don't get me wrong he's made me cry numerious times but never because I blew up like a balloon. But anyway just remember you're a beautiful person inside and out and no one will ever take that from you!
waking up in the morning to stand in front of the mirror and look at the person in disgust then realizing that out of all my problems in my life, this is one problem that can be fixed. that is my motivation; knowing that the mistake of letting myself go, get depressed with the added bonus of weight gain can be fixed with brutally hard work.
I'm in awe of you - four kids! I have the "pregnancy service stripes" too, and I'm still much more squishy than I used to be, though I am about the same weight now that I was before I got pregnant two years ago (my son is 14 months old) - just more fat, and less muscle! Like yours, my arms look pretty good, though - my son weighed 10 lbs 7 oz at birth, so I've had a lot of weight to lift from the start!
Unfortunately, physical problems due to the pregnancy and birth have prevented me from working out at all - in fact, I could barely walk for about 6 months after the birth! Now,I'm walking and cycling, but nothing too strenuous yet.
Do you really think you should try to kill yourself to get your body back? For me, what motivates me is to have little successes, and having fun. Start with 20 minutes on a medium tempo, and build from there. If you do too much in the beginning, you'll burn out! Baby steps!