Tuesday, 24 June 2008
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Sex After Baby
by Mama FoxOften when a couple has a baby, the mother shifts everything and her world revolves around her child. Why wouldn't it? I mean, a baby is tiny, helpless, and needy. Some days, I barely have enough time to jump in the shower for 5 uninterrupted minutes let alone have time to spend with my husband.
I was going to type out a list of things you should do to keep your relationship running smoothly but hey, what's the fun in that? Figure out what works for you. Sit down and actually talk with your significant other and agree on a balance that works for you, not the balance that I or anyone else says works.
How has becoming a mom affected your sex life?
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Comments (7)
it made mine better and more spontaneous
Well initially, when the babies were young, there was definitely a damper on sex life, due to hormones, being tired, adjusting to a new little person in the house...after a while, it does get better, and we've found being creative, flexible and spontaneous is what keeps the sex life going. After 9 years things are better now than they were when we first got together.
@mamaturtle - I'd have to agree! It's hard a first but the worst thing you can do is just give up. Lots of woman get so much fulfillment emotionally just from nursing and mothering that they decide they don't need to worry much about sex anymore. But that couldn't be further from the truth! The health and stability of your marriage depends on your vigilance about keeping your relationship fresh and vibrant. Neglecting your sex-life can quickly spread to frustrations, resentments, and distance in other areas of your marriage as well. My husband and I have worked really hard after each baby to keep our sex-life a priority. And I'm so glad now! I have friends who joke about never having sex anymore now that they have children but I can't laugh. It's really heart breaking....
Keep it fresh! Keep it real! It's worth it! Thanks, Mama Fox, for the reminder!
@PhotographerJess - You're welcome.
@mamaturtle - Yup being flexible is a must.
Even if I'm dead tired, I still try to make time with my husband. It takes more effort some days then others but in the end, I'm so happy I didn't just go to bed like I wanted to. Haha!
Sometimes it's difficult, not really because of the baby, I mean, she does go to sleep eventually and being tired isn't an issue because we were both tired before and we're both tired now. Mostly it's just because of the hormones and all that. I figure it'll get better after we stop BF and after Hubby gets fixed and I can stop worrying about getting pregnant.
My kids are a better chaperone then my parents ever were.
After the fourth, it has been a lot harder getting back in the saddle. She was a big baby, and you just don't bounce back from something like that. I am also extemely fertile, so I am terrified I will get pregnant again. All that will put a damper on the sex drive, but I know it wil get better, so I just keep keepin on. It is so important to the husband.
Hahahahaha...this post makes me laugh because of what happened with me and hubby. We didn't have sex...ever.... before when I was pregnant for about 3 months because it hurt to bad, and we didn't have sex until after I had baby when she was about 3 months...so all in all we went without sex for about 6 months total. I had NO sex drive when I was pregnant, and even less after I had her. The pre-natel vitamens screwed me up a lot and pretty much threw sexy out the window, and after the baby, I still felt weird for a long time and didn't feel like myself and I still had NO sex drive. So, as hard as it was on him, we waited until I felt ready and felt like myself again and now we're fine.
We fought alot during the times that we didn't have sex, which is understandable, studies have shown that a healthy sex life, is a happy relationship. But there was really nothing we could do, well that I could do, we just had to wait it out. And we're great now!