With my son, he was always a pretty hefty boy - we always heard, "Well, he doesn't miss a meal, does he?"  Um....nope, we don't starve our kid cause he's a little chunky, but thanks for asking....

When my daughter was about 4 weeks old I went to a group baby shower at church where they were giving all the pregnant and new mommies diapers and wipes and bibs and stuff.  Anyway, this older lady came over and asked if she was a boy or a girl (even though she was wearing pink) and I told her she was a girl.  The lady then said, "Oh, well, she looks like a boy."  I didn't even know what to say.  All babies pretty much look the same - it's rarely obvious at first glance if it's a boy or a girl - but who actually SAYS that?

Then another time, my daughter was about 9 months old, maybe and we were sitting in an office waiting for an appointment and these hispanic ladies were talking - and they kept looking at my baby and then talking to each other in spanish.  I don't know spanish but I wondered if they were talking about my baby.  Anyway, a few minutes later this lady comes over and took my baby.  Didn't ask.  Just took her from my arms.  I was speechless.  And then she asked me how old she was.  I told her and THEN she said, "Cute your baby but too much pounds."  Speechless....again....did she seriously just call my baby fat???  And for the record, my daughter at the time was in the 50th percentile, about average for her age.  And this lady....um...let's just say....definitely above average weight for her age.

i had a baby girl and in my culture, people prefer "boys". while i was pregnant, one of my aunt came up to me and asked "is it a boy or girl?" and i'm like "a girl" and her replied was "don't worry, you'll have a boy next time?" i'm like wtf? what does that supposed to mean??? I don't care if i get a boy or not?! babies are god bless! :)

I hope you didn't tip her.  There are some things that are appropriate conversation -- asking whether you're so promiscuous as to not know the father of your child is NOT one of them.

It never fails to amaze me how rude/judgmental people can be about children and the relationships they're borne out of.  Me and my daughter's father aren't married, but we've created a more stable household and family than some married couples I know.  I certainly "know who her father is" and he's quite involved in the day-to-day care of her as well as long term planning. 

It also pisses me off that people make assumptions about your ability to care for your children.  Yes, I look young (I'm 23 but look about 16, apparently), but I have 2 BAs and am half-way finished w/ a MEd.  I'm more than capable of taking care of myself and my family.

I haven't had anyone get TOO out of pocket with me, but I have so much going on that I don't think I'd even have the patience to be anything but blunt with them -- my parenting is none of their business lol.

I had my daughter when I was 16...she's 9 now and I'm 25 and I people are all the time saying, "You look too young to have a 9 year old!" I just always tell them, "I am," and they don't say much after that.

Wow, that is ridiculous that she asked that. I wonder if she realized how rude that was when she said it. I really haven't dealt with any nosy questions about my family, especially to that extent. Hopefully you never saw her again! 

I'm still going through the pregnancy of my first, and when people find that I'm 7 months along, they tend to stop me and tell me it's too early or that I look underweight. Sorry guys, but every woman gains in her own way, and I happen to be solely baby. As for my age, I see that if I am old enough to make the choice to have a baby, then I'm old enough in every other's eyes as well.

My best friend in college had a little boy 2 days after her 17th birthday. And we shared a Public Speech class, and one assignment in particular was to write an opening speech on a debate about a controversial topic. One of the girls in the class decided to stand up and proceed to tell everyone high school pregnancies is an issue. True, no denying it. But her reasoning for why these girls were getting pregnant? To look cute in overalls. Seriously. After the speech there was a breif silence, everyone knowing about my friend and one other student, an older male around 32. Finally my friend stood up and replied to the debate with, "Well I did happen to have this pair of old farmer's overalls in my closet I was staring at over my husband's rear while we were in the process of concieving, but I'm sure you were doing the same thing when you were writing your speech, playing God and hypocrite. Must be nice to wear so many hats and still be self assured."

When I first became a mom, I was young and looked younger than I was. At the time my youngest brother was elementary age and I had him with me often, with of course my one or two small children in tow. Trips to the store, even in the small town I grew up in and assumed most people knew who I was, still drew looks. Finally one day a cashier actually asked if my brother was actually my own child. "yeah, if I had him when I was 12!" I said, geesh!

Yes, actually. And I've never been pregnant. I'm one of those girls whose weight settles weirdly, and sometimes I look like I'm pregnant, when I'm not. When I was in seventh or eighth grade, my mother and step father took me to the State Fair. A woman there had the nerve to ask me -- a girl running around with a princess crown and veils, with her hair up like a little kid's -- if I was pregnant. My mother turned on her and went off. The woman said she was only asking because she was pregnant. Naturally, I felt horrible, and only because sometimes my weight is a sore subject. I'm not obese, mind you. Just a little heavy, and have been the same weight since eighth grade. Height, too.

Until this past March, I had a job at our town's sole grocery store. One day, this old man comes in and asked me "When's the baby due?" I looked at him and said flatly, "I'm not pregnant, sir." He laughed and said, "Yes you are! Don't be shy. When's the baby due?" I had to tell him another two or three times that I wasn't pregnant before he let it drop and left (he left his ice cream behind because the stupid boy sacking didn't hand it to him, and it made me feel bad.) And then, there was the time in Wal-Mart. An employee asked me that. I left Wal-Mart in a hurry, because like usual it really upset me. I flew home (fortunately wasn't pulled over) and told my mother. She called the store manager about it, and the manager dealt with the employee, saying that their employees have no right asking a customer questions like that.

Various students at school have though I was pregnant too, and when I first moved to the hicktown school I'm attending at the moment, one of the first things I was asked was "Are you pregnant? Who's the father?" They didn't even let me answer the first question. It just made me feel horrible, because I want children when I'm older. Here I am younger, and people think I'm pregnant. >.> It makes me wonder how many times Starbucks employees have decaffed me. (And yes, some baristas really do that. You can read about it on the Starbucks Gossip website. They aren't supposed to, but quite a few will decaff you if they think you're pregnant.)

On a side note, I would have waited until the lady finished cutting my hair, then I would've turned around and gone off on her. People should keep their assumptions to themselves when it comes to matters like this.

Wow, what a question!  I would have been pretty ticked.  Thankfully I haven't gotten any really rude questions... I think people sense I'm not one to mess with in that department.  The worst have been people saying I looked like I was going to deliver any minute when I was barely 7 months pregnant (I was carrying excess amniotic fluid), my g'ma implying the only good thing about BF was that I now have "a chest," and people saying I'm going to spoil my baby because we don't let her cry or make her sleep in her crib alone in her room.  Before Baby, I married Hubby a few months after meeting him and everyone asked if we got married because I was pregnant.  I was nearly 30 with a great career and more than capable of being a single mom, not that it was anyone's business.

A frequent comment we get that's not rude but strange to me is when people tell us, "She looks just like Mommy/Daddy" THEN then apologize to the other person whom they think she doesn't look like:  "She looks just like Daddy, sorry Mommy."  I'm not sure what there is to be sorry about her looking like one of her parents, after all I must find my husband to be very attractive.  Besides, if I wanted a Mini-Me, I'd get cloned!

I am a mom of twin boys and when we go out I am constantly asked if they are twins...what gave you a clue the fact that look exactly alike. I am asked all sorts of questions all the time. My favorite is...can you tell them a part? Yes, I can. Yeah they look alike, but they are two individual little people. Or another question is you must be exhausted after running after two all day long? Then there are those that I am sure really don't mean anything, but calling the boys Double trouble. It is like do not assume that you know my kids are trouble because they are not. 

I love my boys, but going out in public with them sometimes people act like we are some sort of side show and want to come up with the never ending questions to ask and basically are in aww of twins. Come on people there are twins every where in this world...twins is nothing new.

Thanks for the opportunity to vent a little about this. Have a great day!

"quite a few will decaff you if they think you're pregnant"
people are so, so nosy!

I am 20 but look very young and have heard plenty of comments like "you don't even look old enough to be driving!" or "are you excited to start high school?"

I can't wait for all the comments that I will get when I do get pregnant.
Actually...yes I can!!

I was born when my mom was 21 and she probably looked 17 or so, when i was little my friends' moms were always like "your sister is so sweet!" THAT'S MY MOM!