Wednesday, 04 June 2008
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My 13th Mother's Day
This year, my Mother's Day was fabulous. I spent the day with my son Junior and my husband. Papa Elephant cooked me a great french toast breakfast and a filet mignon supper. My gifts were fantastic...
As much as I like my gifts, I would have been just as happy with a simple homemade card. My dream wish is for Junior to one day say, "Thank you for being my mom. You were always there when I needed you and I couldn't have asked for a better mom." Anyone familiar with our situation knows this exchange isn't likely to happen. I try very hard to always be the kind of mom that he would say such things about if he could say them. Even so, the true gift of Mother's Day is just in being a mom.
I love being a mom so much more than I ever thought I could. I don't just love being a mom. I love being Junior's mom. He is not what most would consider the perfect child. He comes with many many challenges and tears of fear and sadness. Every single night, I go to bed worried about his future and wondering who will care for him and love him and be patient and kind when I am gone. The worry causes me to cry most nights. I can't bear the thought of him living out his adulthood the way I lived out my childhood... void of safety and love. Even so, the rewards are immense. His smile lights my world. His hugs and kisses, once reluctant but now plentiful, make me feel warmer than the sun on my face. When he learns something new, I am so proud of him that it must be sinful.
Being his mother means so much to me. I was trusted enough to be given a child with lifelong needs. I was blessed. It isn't always the easiest blessing to have but I am sure that between Junior and myself... I have the easier road to travel. Yes. Being his mom is the best part of Mother's Day for me.
So on Mother's Day this year, I thanked God for letting me be Junior's mom. What were you thankful for on Mother's Day?
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Comments (6)
What a terriffic attitude you have. I know we as moms will love our children any way they come....but you put it so eloquently.
I'm sure you are the kind of mother that he would say 'thank you for being my mom' about. Even if he can't say it... I'm sure he feels it.
This was my frist mothers day .... I was elated to be able to celebrate this day as a mother. My daughter has changed my life in so many ways..... and I wouldn't trade my new life for anything!
aw- you seem like a terrific mom! I don't know what the situation is but I feel that way about my son. He's only 16 months, but to me he's still new and I still feel the need to baby him, even though my hubby thinks I'm silly. I think all these feelings started while I was pregnant.
It was my second Mother's Day this year, mine wasn't nearly as good as yours since my son thought it'd be SUPER cool to dunk my expensive phone in coffee and my hubby acted funny all day so I was feeling alone that. But hey! It's okay because being a mother is already a good feeling.
You're post really touched me and made me cry. I'm inspired by your resilience and loving dedication to your child. I hope I can be as great a mom to my child as you seem to be...
My husband's grandmother is very ill so we drove five hours with two kids to go see her for mother's day. I was thankful that I got to see her smile. It didn't even matter to me that I didn't GET anything for mother's day. I felt blessed just being able to make her smile for a couple of days and see her play with her great grandchildren.
Your attitude and dedication are so encouraging. I worked in a 'home' for cognitively disabled people for a while and it was so sad how many of their families didn't even bother to come see them. There was a girl there that was 19 - and hadn't seem any family since the first year she was put in a home - I believe around the age of twelve. She couldn't talk, eat (fed with a tube in her stomach) - really couldn't DO anything by general standards. But she could smile and laugh - and your couldn't help but beam when she did because it was just so pure. I will never forget that.
Be encouraged by the small steps he makes. He IS telling you what a wonderful mother you have been and are - maybe not in words, but you talk of the progress he has made with giving you hugs and kisses. He tells you in those things - in the fact that he is learning from you, even when it is so difficult for him to do so. Let that be your validation. You are doing something many others pass off to somebody else to do - raising a child with special needs - with passion and love I hope I show for my kids.
"Even so, the true gift of Mother's Day is just in being a mom."
That's a beautiful statement, and I wish that's the thought I woke up to this Mother's Day. Thankfully, there are plenty more in the future .